Last Updated on August 5, 2015
I have written and explained previous to now that the human ego—in the cultures and societies I am familiar with—generally lives in some degree of victim mentality. This is the mentality that I am a victim to life. Things that happen in life, things that people do, disease, misfortune, accidents, theft, crime, abuse, etcetera. What I have shared is that in my experience this is a erroneous perception set up by the ego and what’s more it is a mis-perception that keeps the bearer forever trapped in a cycle of disempowerment and struggle. Eventually each of us shall learn through either the school of hard-knocks or more favorably the school of mystical wisdom that this victim mentality is a disservice to humankind and has no function but to perpetuate separation and illusion.
What I wish to share here is that I have experienced some people having a reaction to this idea that I suspect is fairly typical. Just today I was explaining the nature of victim consciousness to a friend in response to her inquiry about a book I am writing. I quickly mentioned some examples of where people fall into a victim roll, and it went something like this… “many of us believe we are victims to life, victims to events, victims to other people doing things to us, victims to disease, victims to misfortune….”
She immediately picked up on the “victims to disease” bit and asked what I meant by that.
I explained that we are not a victim to disease; that it is something that will arise into a my experience in order to illicit my attention and focus it on some element of Self that I have denied or fallen into mis-perception over.
She stated categorically that she did not agree. She stated that she’s aware there may very well be certain situations where a person through their own dysfunction might bring a state of disease on—that there is certainly a link between our chemistry and how state of mind/emotions—but that this certain could not always be the case. She has a friend that is currently dealing with a very aggressive form of cancer. Her comment was something like, “I can’t for a moment believe that she is to blame for her cancer”.
I pointed out that it is not a question of blame. That this notion of blame presupposes that this apparent “cancer” is wholly bad and unfortunate and is the outcome of this person being at fault. Let us explore what my known tells me about this example.
If I find myself experiencing a disease then at the level of apparent reality it could be said that I (“I” as ego) am at fault and therefore “to blame”. Yet at this level healing is impossible and hence it is really rather unproductive to dwell there, although the ego would dearly wish to. What I saw arise within my friends perception is the notion of “self victimisation”. This is the idea that if I am not a victim to things happening to me then I must be a victim to my own self. “I made this disease happen”, “I brought this cancer upon myself” and this of course seems to imply that one has malice toward oneself. Of course anyone in their right mind would not have malice toward oneself, yet on the other hand the ego has nothing but malice toward the True Self.
I realise I am walking of eggshells here yet I shall proceed all the same.
To say that “I am to blame for my disease” and therefore imply that I am a victim to my own self malice is really the victim mentality perpetuating into an a perception that has the potentially to be wholly void of this madness. The ego-mind will quite naturally conclude that “if I am not a victim to this disease, event, misfortune, then that means I create this and therefore I am a victim unto myself”.
I would to suggest another path of logic that will lead to an entirely different conclusion and outcome.
If I am to truly appreciate that I am not a victim to things happening to me then I must realise that things are happening for me. Therefore rather than falling into the trap of thinking that “If this cancer has happened to me then that means I did this to myself and what a horrible thought that is”, it is vital we rise above this level of perception and realise that “what I am experiencing here is in fact a gift I Am extending to my self here on Earth and that it is imbued with Divine purpose and function”.
The purpose of all disease, suffering and pain is to arouse awareness. It is about Self Awareness. To the degree that I forget the true nature of who and what I Am is the degree to which I will experience pain and suffering. The purpose of this pain is not to punish me nor is it a form of self malice. Rather it is a powerful means through which a soul can turn a situation around and experience self-reflection for the purpose of waking up to what is true. Therefore the challenges I face in my life—whether they appear in the form of disease, suffering, abusive relationships, accidents etc—are not indicative of my being wrong, bad, or at fault. It is vital that all such thinking be arrested immediately. If I find that I there is emotion aroused by this sort of thinking then a process of healing and forgiveness is called for. Not blame and self-judgement. It’s not my purpose here in this article to explain what that healing process shall look like, so please explore that elsewhere.
It is actually very empowering to deeply realise and experience that everything in life is happening FOR ME and not TO ME—that I am not a victim to external things nor am I a victim unto myself. Rather I am a gift unto myself and through the infinite omnipresent intelligence that I Am it is my gift to myself to extend into my human experience those phenomena that shall lead to my awakening.
There is plenty more I could say on this topic yet I am aware that any further comment will only be of value if it is in direct response to your particular enquiry based on where you are presently at within your consciousness. Therefore please feel free to ask questions.
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